if you wanna be scary you gotta deal with people thinking you're mean even if they weren't people you were intentionally being mean to or people that you're like 'in hindsight I didn't need to be mean to them' it'd bother me if it wasn't true, I guess
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Yes!
I think some people are inspired by it
Like
“Arya Stark is not big and mean and all the traditional stuff that makes you afraid of a person but she can be scary! Maybe I can be scary too!”
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I know no one thinks I'm big but plenty of people do think I'm mean!
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But those are terrible people that maybe deserve to have some people be mean to them. Those people don’t love how much they fear you
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not everybody who thinks I'm mean is terrible. some of them have data.
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Wait who thinks you’re mean that isn’t a terrible person I’m not okay with this!
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When have you done that?
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Well hopefully those people can some day get to know the real you so they can be scared but not think you’re mean
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this might sound bad, but I'm not terribly worried about the possibility that they'll always just think I'm mean
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That’s probably a pretty healthy view to have about people thinking things about you
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or people that you're like 'in hindsight I didn't need to be mean to them'
it'd bother me if it wasn't true, I guess
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Okay that’s a really good way to look at it and really wise of you
Have I told you before how much I love how smart you are and how much you think about that stuff
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I doubt there's anything you haven't mentioned that you love about me
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I really love how thoughtful and smart you are. Like a lot